Wednesday, July 28, 2010
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Wednesday, July 14, 2010
Saturday, July 10, 2010
I recently discovered Atlantic Records recording artist Laura Izibor while watching a reality show on VH1. I absolutely love her voice. There is so much passion and intensity behind each of her songs. This is the kind of music you feel down in your soul. Her sound is uniquely hers (think neo-soul mixed with a bit of Norah Jones). Any person that has ever loved and had their heart broken is sure to find a song that resonates with them. And if you are fourtunate enough to have never experienced a broken heart you will still find a song that you'll fall in love with (if not all of them). Anyone that enjoys good music will want to hear this album.
You can purchase your copy of her debut album Let the Truth Be Told on iTunes, amazon.com, or at record stores nationwide. Some of her songs are also avaliable on youtube if you want a bit of a preview before you buy the album.
Here's a video of my favorite single. What's your favorite?
As a child I was always told there were two types of girls: the ones guys wanted to marry and the ones they wanted to sleep with and if you fell into the latter category your reputation was ruined and no guy would publicly admit to wanting to be with you.
Things are a lot different than when I was a teenage girl. I remember when Britney Spears first came out, everyone made a big deal about her claim that she was a virgin and many were outright offended when they found out that was no longer the case. Christina Aguilera caused a stir when she made her video for "Dirty" because she was wearing a red corset, hot pants, a bra top and chaps all while dancing provocatively. R&B singer Brandy had a child with her then boyfriend and put on a sham marriage for years (there was even a reality show documenting the lie) all in an attempt to protect her "good girl" image--God forbid the world know she got knocked up. I could go on and on...
These days are different. Morality is no longer praised. The Jonas Brothers are mocked for their decision to remain chaste. Kim Khardasian has managed to make a career off of a sex tape and the world seems to adore her for it. No longer are intimate moments shared between a couple kept between that couple to be treasured and valued. It used to be your body wasn't something you revealed to just anyone. Now teenage girls (and some grown women) are posting pictures in their bra and panties on social networking sites and sleeping with anything that calls them cute.
So why the change? Most guys say they want a "good girl" to raise their kids and set a positive example for their daughters. But then you look at the media and see Kanye West flaunting a stripper as his girlfriend, countless R&B singers entering relationships with video girls, and athletes actually marrying their groupies. You would expect that to be characteristic of men that aren't believers, but now men in the church are doing it too!
So then I'm left to wonder, where do the nice girls fit in?
I know lots of nice girls that are single. Good, honest, hard working women that can't get a man. And I know plenty of not so nice ones that are not. Then I start to think, is a nice girl's lack of "experience" now a negative that makes her unappealing to men still in their 20s and not ready to give up the bachelor lifestyle to commit to a long term relationship? Well maybe. But what does it matter. Would you really want to marry the type of guy that would sleep around with any kind of woman anyway. I'm not going to wait for some guy in his mid 30s who finally wants to settle down, marry the nice girl, and have a family after he's bedded everything that even looked at him in his 20s. I don't want every woman's sloppy seconds.
Do nice girls marry last? I'm not sure. But one thing is certain. You don't have to resort to taking provocative pictures and walking around practically naked in public to get a man. Be yourself and maintain your purity. And even if you marry later than everyone else, at least you'll know that it is to a man that respects himself enough not to violate his body by sleeping with any random woman and that he has enough respect for women not to take advantage of their low self esteem. You'll know that he's with you not just for your body, but also your mind and soul. And most of all you'll know he is moral and a man of God by more than just words.
That to me is worth the wait!
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
Bossip is running a story today about R&B singer Ciara. Now first let me say, I know Ciara gets a lot of hate from the media and the public. I however am not a Ciara hater. Is she the most talented person in the world? Not even close. But she is beautiful and thanks to Missy and Jazzy Pha she at one time had some decent hits. Speaking of which, maybe she needs to find their number so they can save her career because The Dream is not working for her.
So anyway Bossip says that Ciara in a Parade Magazine interview claimed to spend $11,000/month on shoes. Now I don't read Parade so I didn't see the story myself. But if that is true all I can say is girl what are you thinking?? I love shoes just as much as the next girl and if I had her bank account, I could probably do some serious damage myself. But every month?
If you tune in to one of the shows that tell the "untold stories" behind celebs (like Behind the Music or E! True Hollywood Story) I guarantee you will see this: a celeb who at one time was on the top of the industry then fast forward 10 years and they are bankrupt, getting evicted from their home, struggling to pay their bills and crying about how they lost it all. Well when I see that I think "what in the world happened to all the money you were making". Should someone who ever had an income of hundreds of thousands of dollars a year ever go bankrupt? Not if they know how to manage their money. Very few celebs have the talent or charisma to keep the public interested in them for a long period of time. For everyone else, there will come a day when the public no longer buys their albums or goes to see their movies and no one will be interested in what you had for lunch much less what you wear on your feet. And when you weren't even an A list celeb to begin with, that day might be coming sooner than you think...
All I can say is Ciara, take your pennies and stow them away for a rainy day. You never know when you might need them.
You can check out the story here.
If I could steal anyone's wardrobe, Kerry Washington would be at the top of my list. She always looks absolutely AMAZING. Perfect hair, perfect shoes, perfect makeup, just perfect everything. Of course the only place I would have to wear one of her glamorous gowns would be around my apartment but a girl can dream.
Here are a few of my favorite looks from Ms. Kerry.
Here's Kerry in April at the LA premeire of Mother and Child
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Kerry at the 2007 VH1 Hip Hop Honors
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
Monday, July 5, 2010
So since this is officially my first post I guess I should introduce myself. I am in my mid 20s and getting ready to embark on a brand new career as a lawyer (what was I thinking?). Most important, I am Christian who makes God number one in my life. For any other ladies that are in the same situation, then I don't have to explain to you how hard it is to meet a guy when you are committed to your faith, but that is a story for another day!
So what exactly is meant by my title "little black chic.tionary". Well basically it is my little book of secrets--my innermost thoughts, biggest fears, secret obsessions and everything in between. So drop by for everything from my fashion tips, faith lessons and stories about my hilarious and sometimes embarrassing adventures as I try to navigate my way into a new career.
Your 20s are supposed to be the best time of your life right? I guess we'll see...